Kids and Their Devices: Seeking further experiences?

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I was asked by a friend and colleague, “What do we do, about kids who have their heads stuck in their cell phones?” It’s a question of great concern for many parents; which included the both of us. So as we drank our tea, I responded . . .

I have this theory about why so many kids gravitate toward cell phones and other devices . . . First, kids ages 0-6, form patterns quickly and deeply, within their physical-system. If they’re getting the opportunity to interact with electronic devices between those ages, they will be establishing sticky patterns with those devices as they age. 

And even more important is, kids love to play and experience stuff. Their imaginations are on fire. They’re curious. Their states of awareness are heightened. They have fun experiencing virtual realities in physical play, or electronic play; socially and individually.

Most kids with their heads drawn to the light of a screen, have never been taught that they come equipped to experience an infinite number of virtual realities — naturally and just as vividly — without electronics (e.g., imagination)!

Our current k-12 curricula, nor much of our current parenting, redirects kids from focusing on an electronic device, (all that exciting hardware and software), and instead to using their natural devices; all that miraculous mind-body hardware and software; that can experience extraordinary natural states of awareness and information. After all, all of the electronic software we develop, arises from those natural states of ours (e.g., imagination, dreams).

Our computational ability far surpasses any technology existing. We’ve labeled some of our mind-body attributes, “extra sensory perception” (ESP); the ability to perceive in a variety of different ways, along with our daily awake state. Yet “extra sensory,” is a natural and normal aspect of our functionality. There really is nothing “extra” about our sense abilities and, as kids, we naturally play in those states. 

I think kids today are showing us that they’re ready, and deeply interested in new experiences; virtual or otherwise. If they were taught about their natural attributes, capabilities and functionalities (potential to experience), so that they may experience something beyond their current daily-life focus which may not be challenging enough, or interesting enough, their device-usage would be more balanced. And all-around fear regarding that usage, would dissolve. Since many kids really haven’t been taught about their built-in imaginative, cognitive, emotional attributes; they do what’s been patterned, what’s known; electronic VS natural.

Guiding parents and their kids in grades k-12, to become fully aware of, and knowledgable about, their natural states of awareness, inner-perception, the unique information there — all of their virtual realities (core identity)  would go a long way toward getting kids’ heads out of an external electronic screen, and into their internal natural “screen” — as a first choice.

Parents - for ways to guide your kids toward using MORE of their natural attributes, to further extraordinarily positive experiences in their life, contact me (Dana B. Lichtstrahl), at We can even set up private parent classes - online or in-person.

“Dana, thank you for coaching our son . . . You really helped him reach inside and unlock his innate creativity . . .”
— A.R., Dad of 7th grader


A new way of learning has emerged, due to advances in scientific and psychological knowledge. This new way of learning seems to advance not only the ability of one’s intellect, yet it stimulates the awareness of a greater number of ideas.

It is working with kids ages 7-17, (here at and I wish to find out if the same curriculum–wrapped in a public speaking/communications cover–will have outstanding results with adults too. As we know, learning happens differently at different ages, and uniquely at that.

If this curriculum, teaching a new way of learning, is effective with adults, participants will leave the program and beneficially effect your entire organization–naturally.

If you’re a part of an organization that seeks some revitalization, has teams of 2-12 people, and you have an interest in them experiencing one of the five (5) pilots, and possibly becoming highly effective Innovators, contact me at (cut and paste for your protection).

Each of the five (5) pilots is a 12-hour program; 2-hours weekly for six (6) weeks. The training is at your location, in a room large enough, with tables and chairs. I bring everything else, and it’s recorded for deeper study towards a greater understanding of adults.

Thank you for working with me on advancing the whole–together. PS: I’d even test this with students at the university level, so academic leaders don’t hesitate to step forward.

It's that new 70/30% rule (for public speaking)...

Practice, practice, practice. When you know the material solidly, speaking about it will happen naturally. That’s the best combination when delivering information of any kind, to any age, for any reason; it's that new 70/30% rule (for public speaking)! 70% is about knowing the information solidly--100%! (fully embodied and inspired), with 30% the naturally, conversational expression, of the information, (...which is the mark of an interesting speaker/talk).

Practice, practice, practice Did I say that already? (70% is ensuring you know your information 100%!)....can't say that enough...

Below are a few practices to ensure a 70/30% balance from your child, before S/he presents (yourself too, when practicing to present)

  • Ask your child to consider speaking the introduction and summary of their presentation (assuming they have crafted a draft), out loud (not to focus on the body-content of their speech. That's when most of the 30%--the conversational relaying of the information--happens, and which can be supported by “bullet points” on index cards, they can refer to when presenting). Have them practice by speaking [the introduction and summary] out loud in their room, while playing outside, singing the information in the shower, in front of the mirror; verbalizing it while walking, running, sitting at lunchtime, and helping around the house!
  • Have them pay attention to “hearing themselves” -- the sound of the information coming from their mouths", as they practice everywhere! Most cell phones can audio-record. If you have one of those, have them record themselves, and then listen. If they don’t like what they hear, "I sound like that!" ask, "How would you prefer to sound?" and see if they can "match" it!
  • Ensure their knowledge by having them imagine hearing the information “in their mind".
  • Ask them questions about their topic that you want to know. This gives them practice responding (Q&A), and learning to respond comfortably, while hearing their response! Did they like how they responded/sounded? What might make a better sound-experience?! Have fun asking them to consider this.

Hear a pattern here (pun intended)? By guiding your child to become aware of one “sense-ability” (hearing/sound), you are strengthening their speaking confidence naturally. It's that new 70/30% rule! Know your information and then become aware of how you deliver it – for better delivery!

Practice, practice...ok already... Our kids eventually tied their shoelaces after much practice (as we did). Speaking is a built-in human capability. With our built-in abilities to practice, and become aware of, everyone can surely achieve full verbal potential, and have fun speaking anywhere, anytime, with any one!

It’s a divine moment when we experience our kids speaking with grace and ease.

Your child is a brilliant "tech-multi-tasker", right?

Yet, can S/he speak anytime, anywhere, with anyone -- with ease? It's a good question for Parents and Educators to reflect on, and if they feel at all uncomfortable about a child's comfort level when speaking, that's a great sign to explore exactly what's occurring for the child, with the child. Discord is easily shifted to accord, when gracefully explored. No doubt about it. For specific ways in which to explore verbal expression with your unique child, contact me.

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